[LIFE] On: Why it’s Time for Men to Tend to Their Own Knitting |
The incessant glare of the Blogosphere on the minds, hearts, and souls of Black women would be helpful if it wasn’t so not actually ABOUT Black women. A careful review of the general narrative in these articles suggests that there is a concerted effort to push back against Black women’s self- determination. If I was prone to Tin-Foil Fitteds I would almost suggest a conspiracy, but that requires a level of coordination and cooperation that Black men just can’t seem to manage.
Let me be honest for a second. This post is very difficult for me to write. As a certified member of the male gender, my impulse is to let women fight their own battles. That impulse takes a back seat to dealing with my brethren on how they treat my sisters. My goal here is to address my issues without belaboring them purely for entertainment sake. As tempting as it is to really go in on this stuff, the reality is that such behavior detracts from real debate. and if we don’t actually HAVE This damn debate, then this kind of behavior is sure to continue.
For every post I read entitled: The Sad Clown:Four Reasons Why Funny Girls Finish Last or “Are 21st Century Women ready for a Marriage Partnership?”, I skip seven. At a certain point, they all tend to read alike.
The second post came courtesy of the FreshXpress. Idu Charles, who proclaims himself an educated man, thinker and unrestricted dreamer opens his piece innocently enough:
One thing is clear as crystal: Women have changed, and men have not.
It seems simple enough, right? I’ve been suggesting as such for a long while, that as their economic viability and opportunity has increased women’s ambitions and hopes will change.
That wasn’t exactly where Mr. Charles was headed. Mr. Charles goes on to pose a series of loaded questions that essentially chastise women for having the audacity to…evolve. (Damn them; if only they had stayed in their place…)
In the case of the Fine Brothers at VSB, it’s simply Entertainment. They are who they are; they do what they do. I don’t read them often, but when I do, they are consistently well-written and funny. Now mind you, it is entertaining to the point that you read it in a vacuum. But since I don’t live in a vacuum, I tend not to always evaluate their posts in that fashion.
My problem with the post doesn’t necessarily lie at VSB’s doorstep.
Not. Necessarily.
One man’s entertainment is another man’s gospel truth, it seems. What The Champ may have only meant for shits, giggles and page views, was used by armies of Y-chromosome-owners as some kind of Dead Sea Scroll, physical proof that these women are getting too big for their capris.
That, in fact, is what is constantly going on online. From the indirect and passive aggressive tone of Mr. Charles to the good natured but easily co-opted entertainment of VSB, The meme is being reinforced on a daily basis.
“Dear Woman, stop trying to progress, it only will get more difficult for you to work with us. Kindly Stay in your lane so we can stay in ours. You know, the one that dictates your ability to define yourself.”
If you think I’m going to be sitting around here a slapping around shaky arguments on TWiB, you’re mistaken. I’ve got exactly ONE more post on this tired ass topic. And I am going to take my sweet time getting around to that, cause clearly, by virtue of the umbrage circulating, men are amused and women are perturbed by this topic and it can be very easy to get bogged down.
I am already resisting the urge to make this any more entertaining. Sure, I could do a point by point take down, but for what? Okay…just this last one, I promise.
Mr. Charles suggests that somehow because a woman works hard and a man might have a more significant role in the at home responsibilities that the child would naturally cling towards the home-making parent.
Wait. You think I am lying, don’t you?
I cannot make this up. Does this man know NOTHING of the power of the womb? Does he even HAVE children? See? The urge is great. I must resist.
The Truth is, so must you. If you see pieces of this nature today (and you will, because, hey…it IS Thursday, and it’s really the last chance to get major Page views before the holiday weekend) Just click the X and Roll out.
Don’t tell a soul.
Pretend you never saw it.
If you ignore them, they WILL go away.
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